Advanced Personal Therapy Newsletter - April 2009
Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.
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Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.
do you dance?
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with joy, with exuberance, with letting go, with letting your hair down, with feeling free to be you and exhilarate in the unrepressed delight of being you.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with knowing that life can be as good as you allow it to be, despite your outer circumstances (see also The Greatest Quality in Life).
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with the thrill of knowing you have choices, as long as you choose to have choices at least on an inner level, even though externally your choices may be very limited.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with being conscious and aware.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with doing your joyful utmost to pursue your dreams because your dreams give your life meaning (see also The Only Person You Have to Make Happy is You – there is much good information in this article about the difference between selfishness and self-love).
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with surrounding yourself with joy, love, and peace, even though these may only available on an inner level.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Dancing in your life has to do with knowing that you will not die without having danced to the music that is inside of you.
Have you danced lately?
for Your Unhappiness
is not a fun thought .
Taking responsibility for your unhappiness sounds like there's no one and nothing left to blame. And that - of course - is what this is all about.
It’s the Other Person’s Fault
When you are unhappy, it is because you have chosen to be so due to someone not behaving the way you wanted them to, or something not turning out the way you might have it expected to. So life did not go your way. Things simply weren't the way you wanted them to be.
so - understandably - you are unhappy.
And of course you believe you are unhappy
because of what the other person did or did not do, or because of
the situation that did not turn out the way you would have liked it
to (see also Making Choices: Taking Responsibility For Our Lives
And that is precisely where you need to begin to take responsibility for your unhappiness.
By taking responsibility for your happiness. So if you are unhappy about something, you are the one who can change how you feel. Either by choosing to change how you feel about something, how you think about something, how you view something, or by choosing to do something that will raise your energy to levels where you are able to once again feel happy.
Your happiness is in your hands. If you leave it in the hands of the acts and deeds of others, or in the manner in which situations in your life turn out, you are not free.
Freedom implies being in charge of your happiness.
Feature Article continued below
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Continuation of Feature Article
Creating Joy in the Way Your Life Unfolds
So it means that it is also about your responsibility in creating joy in the way your life unfolds.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> No, I can't do that.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> My life is not unfolding to plan.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> My life is not good.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> I don't like my life.
<![if !supportLists]> § <![endif]> Under such circumstances how do you expect me to create joy in the way my life unfolds?
That is, however, precisely it. Most of our lives don't always unfold
according to plan, or in the best way possible. That's the reason
why we have to take charge
about creating joy in the way our life unfolds.
Our joys as winged dreams do fly; why then should sorrow last? Since grief but aggravates thy loss, grieve not for what is past. Thomas Percy, English poet 1729-1811
Grieve not for what is past ... our joys as winged dreams do fly ... doesn't it make sense that we behave the same way with our grief as we do with our joy? As the poet - Thomas Percy - says, our joys tend to leave us very quickly. And yet we dwell on our sorrows.
This is in fact, an unusually interesting statement about the human condition. We have a much greater tendency to stay with those aspects of our lives that are not bright and clear, that do not have sunshine and warmth, and tend to bring on the clouds swollen with rain. Why do we do this? Is it just a wired into us? Wired into our hearts? Wired into our brains?
think so. This may very well be due to what part Eckhart
Tolle calls the pain body, and what Chris Griscom calls the emotional body. I've written about this
in the past, so I'll just briefly reiterate the basic points:
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> the pain body is seductive
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> the emotional body has an emotionally sticky quality that we find hard to pull away from
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> both pain body and emotional body are familiar to us because they represent pain, difficulties, and hardships that we have been subject to in the past
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> this very familiarity based on the amount of time we have spent revisiting those difficult moments, is what causes us to field the seductive pull
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> once we give in to the seductive pull into the pain or the negative emotions via our memory needs, we tend to wallow in the pain, much as pigs wallow in mud
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> why?
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Because we prefer the familiarity
if we spent as much time
revisiting our joyful moments as we do our painful ones, we might
find - ironically - that we experience greater familiarity with our
joy than with our pain - and wouldn't that be a wonderful state of
mind to be in...
Have you ever considered why the sum total of your life very possibly seems to have an uneven tipping of the scale in favor of the negative? Could it not be simply because of where you spend much of your mental time? And don't you agree that where you spend much of your mental time is a matter of choice? And if it is a matter of choice, why not spend more time with your memories of the joyful moments, as opposed to memories of the painful ones? It really is that easy.
know we are meant to be responsible about all those things that a
decent sense of morality and a firm Puritan work ethic would demand
more vibrant you are, the happier you are, the more conscious and
aware you are, the more responsibility you take for your own inner
and outer well-being - the healthier you are.
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Create a New LIfe: One Intention At A Time
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Entering the Now Moment By Leaving Unawareness Behind
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Gratitude, Choice, and the "Why Did This Happen To Me? Syndrome
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Grow in Richness: Stop the Blaming
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it a Question of Luck?
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, and the Law of Attraction
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Living in the Now: Use it to Enrich Your Life
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Making Choices: Taking Responsibility For Our Lives
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Nurture Yourself to Happiness and Success
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> Tending Your Inner Garden
<![if !supportLists]> · <![endif]> The Energy Barometer: Make Your Mind Body Connection Work For You
The Puritan Work Ethic, Wu-Wei,
and is Life Really Meant to be a Struggle?
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In addition to her private practice – see above photo - (English, Spanish, and German), incorporating both integral coaching, and dream analysis in individual therapy (private sessions) and relationship coaching, as well as cutting-edge psycho-energetics (meridian energy therapies), Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Ph.D., CHT) has also been trained as a clinical hypnotherapist, and offers diverse workshops in the field of personal development and dream groups. Dr. Kortsch also offers phone consultations (domestic and international) to clients of more than twenty nationalities. A professional speaker, she is available to speak on a variety of related topics both publicly and privately for corporations, organizations, clubs, hospitals, and groups. For further information please contact her Marbella office by telephone +34 952 929 071, email, or see her website .
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This is what the April 2009 schedule looks like:
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2) Listen to over 150 archived audio files on my website (in the past it has always taken some time for me to get new shows up on my website due to logistical problems. Now, with the new program Re-Wiring the Soul, new clips will be up in a matter of minutes, for re-listening or downloading ... for adding to ITunes or your IPod)
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Information About This New Show
Many changes have taken place at the local studio where I had been broadcasting for the past five years from 2003 - 2008, and they finally closed their doors to the international section of their station.
Hence, I am continuing to broadcast via another medium and under the name Re-wiring the Soul.
After five years of broadcasting
a conventional radio show in Southern Spain about topics in the broad
(and frequently eclectic) fields of integral psychotherapy and positive
psychology, I wanted to venture further abroad. Thanks to my incredible
interlocutor at the station, Brenda Padilla, we managed to produce 150 audio
clips from that show and they are all available via my website
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For greater ease in finding what interests you, archived shows are now separated into topics
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Note that there are many more interviews on my new radio show Rewiring the Soul (see the archived episodes starting January 2009)
Se * uality (9)
154 shows are now up, and more are added frequently, as I air them on the website of my new radio show Rewiring the Soul and they are then available almost instantaneously either on the player at the Rewiring the Soul website, or the same player on the right side-bar of my blog. A similar player is also up on the website.
Current Workshops 2009 in The Conscious Journey Within Workshop Series
Email: firstname.lastname@example.org or +34 952 929 071
Past Life Regressions: Its Role in Resolving Parental Issues and
How many people have done a great deal of work on themselves and their relationships in therapy, in exercises of all types, in bodywork, meditation, and all kinds of other practices, only to find that although they may have gained a great deal of understanding, and their stress levels may have decreased substantially, that they have in fact, not solved the initial problem? In cases such as these, past life regression is frequently the method that finally brings them the answers they have been searching for with such fervor. Past life regression weaves together strands of eternal connection between you and others in your life that have had an important impact on you - whether that impact was positive or negative. One method for resolving the impact that was created is by re-living and understanding the bond or links that you share with the other person. This workshop which also includes a lengthy experiential group regression session, aims at explaining not only these fundamental timeless associations, but also how past life regression may be a tool in their comprehension.
(Note: this workshop requires sign-up and full payment
Click here for further information about this workshop
Upcoming Workshops May – August 2009:
May 16 Power, Possession, Obsession, and Control in Relationships: What Turns
Some Individuals Into Obsessive, Possession- and Power-Driven Control
Seekers? Why do Other Individuals Allow This to Happen to Them?
Most people have met couples that have clearly demarcated power lines. One of the two holds the reins firmly in one hand, while the other allows him or herself to be controlled. The control is frequently of an emotional or sexual nature, rather than a financial or physical one. In the couple, one of the two needs to feel in possession of the other individual about whom he/she obsesses. Is this all to be blamed on feelings of insecurity and inferiority, or is there more than meets the eye at first glance? And what about the one at the receiving end of the equation? The one who is being manipulated, controlled, possessed? Are they allowing it because they are weak? Because they fear delineating boundaries of behaviour since it might cause them to be rejected or abandoned by the other individual? These and other topics form the body of insight of this workshop.
Develop Your Capacity for Happiness. Raise your level of
Fatherless Women and Motherless Men: What happens to the adult woman who was raised without her father, and to the adult man whose early relationship was not intact?
Sometimes a father's physical presence may form part of the household, yet he may not be available for his daughter in the way that she hopes for as she searches his face in vain for a clue to her own identity; sometimes a mother does her utmost to raise her son with love and attention, yet he feels as though he never received the love he so desperately sought from her as a child; as though he had been shortchanged in the affection department. Sometimes the parent is not actually present, due to divorce, abandonment, illness, or death; sometimes the parent is negligent, uncaring, or even abusive: in all these instances, the child suffers, and pays for it in his or her adult relationships. This workshop explores these issues, their recognition, and possible resolution.
Happiness: Develop your capacity for happiness. Raise your level of happiness. See the quality of your life improve on a daily basis.
Why is happiness frequently so elusive? It seems to slip through our fingertips and we spend most of our lives chasing it like an errant butterfly, or telling ourselves that we "just weren't meant to be happy". Or maybe we don't deserve to be happy. Or maybe so many other things with which our minds torture us. So what might happen if we knew how to change all of that? If we could just "learn" what to do in order to ensure that our lives would be full of satisfaction and contentment and enjoyment. Wouldn't that be worth a bit of effort? Imagine being in charge of your state of happiness or content every day of your life. This workshop provides you with tools to achieve that. More importantly, this workshop shows you how easily you can make these monumental changes in your life, in order to begin to feel the difference immediately.
Time (on any of the dates): 10:30 – 14:30. Doors open at 10:00
Cost: 60 € in advance (bank transfer or deposit or cash), by the Wednesday prior to the workshop date
(midnight), or 90 € thereafter.
Phone: +34 952 929 071
ORGANIZE WORKSHOPS FOR YOUR GROUP OR IN YOUR AREA
These are the 12 Workshops in the Series
1. Life Focus, Intention, and Success: Understanding the Law of Attraction and Applying it to Your Immediate Life
Regression: Its Role in Healing Unresolved Parental
3. Using the Now Moment to Release Stress, Problems, and Anxiety
4. Jungian Dream Symbolism and Interpretation in Relationships: How your Anima and Animus appear in your dreams to show you the direction you are taking
5. Fatherless Women and Motherless Men: What happens to the adult woman who was raised without her father, and to the adult man whose early maternal relationship was not intact?
6. Power, Possession, Obsession, and Control in Relationships: What Turns Some Individuals Into Obsessive, Possession- and Power-Driven Control Seekers? Why do Other Individuals Allow This to Happen to Them?
7. Relationships: Begin to see your relationships (even those with problems) as Priceless Tools for Gaining Greater Self-Understanding, Growth, and Inner Freedom
8. Sexual and Love Triangles: How do they slip into our lives and why do individuals so frequently participate in them, tolerate them, and endure the pain they entail?
9. Emotional Unavailability in Relationships: What does it say about your partner? More importantly - What does it tell you about YOU?
10. Happiness: Develop your capacity for happiness. Raise your level of happiness. See the quality of your life improve on a daily basis.
11. Love & Relationship Challenges Seen Through the Lens of the Astrological Chart
12. Leadership Challenges: Knowing Yourself to Become an Effective Leader
For more detailed descriptions, click Workshops
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