Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.
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All the Baggage and the Old Wounds
When your father walked out on you, your siblings, and your mother, your life changed drastically. Now, decades later, it still lives on in your mind, as you remember how difficult things were, and how - about 15 months after he left - you caught a glimpse of him one day on the street in the company of another woman, much younger and less stressed-looking than your mother, who had a baby in her arms. Your father had just hugged her and kissed the baby, and you felt such agony. You also felt rage. And you remember it to this day. How could you forget how he affected all your lives?
When you found your high school love - the first girl you ever went to bed with - making out with your best buddy - you were both on the basketball team - something shrivelled up inside of you and died. With that one act she took away your self-esteem. It took you years to work your way out of that. And your best buddy. After a shoving match with him after having found the two of them there, you never spoke to him again. And you never found a friend again with whom you shared the way you used to with him - before you realized what a traitor he was. Even when you ran into that first girl friend again recently, now that you're both in your forties and you saw how she had gained weight and lost her youthful sparkle and attraction, you felt no sense of satisfaction, only pain in the memory of what happened that devastating day.
When your wife left you, taking with her not only the kids, but also the silver and the antiques, you felt impotent with rage. When she furthermore got sole custody because that’s how the system works, you were beside yourself. And of course she also got alimony and child support. Whenever you think about that, you can still feel your blood boil.
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What's new about that, you may ask. Of course I relive the painful moment. How else could I react? Do you expect me to forget it?
Not exactly. Although there is an element of forgetting it involved in what I am about to write.
Hanging on to the Old Memories - Hanging on For Dear Life
What I'd like you to think about is this: by remembering, by bringing it back into your mind over and over again - even though you only do it once a week or once a month - you maintain the freshness of the pain. Reliving a painful situation in your mind is tantamount to reliving it in reality ... have you not noticed how the tears can flow again and again, or the red-hot anger can flare over and over ... even though decades have passed?
Of course, you say, of course the tears flow or the anger flares. After all, what happened was very painful...
Your Thoughts Attract
Let's switch to another topic for a moment: you've read about The Law of Attraction, the power of intention, heard about the movie or book The Secret, etc. Maybe you've even read some of the multitude of books about the subject. If so, you know the insistence of all these authors on one central philosophy: what you think about becomes your reality ... thoughts become things ... as a man thinketh, so shall he be ... and of course, all of these authors are encouraging you to imagine in your head, to visualize, or create scenarios in your head to the point where you can literally feel yourself inside of them, and feel the emotion or excitement that would be part of your life if your "scenario" were already a reality. They are basically stating that by so doing, that "scenario" you are so vividly imagining will eventually become a part of your life. That is the power of the law of attraction.
Here’s a verbatim excerpt from a previous article of mine:
The Importance of Forgiving & the Law of Attraction
Once you can forgive, the unfinished business from the past transforms into a mere memory that no longer carries any negative connotations to pull your power away from the present. It is at this point that you can begin to take cellular responsibility for yourself, i.e. you will no longer be harming your body in all senses of the word by keeping that negative power in the past.
Caroline Myss (from whose work I have borrowed the term cellular responsibility) pointed out almost a decade ago in 1999 in The Science of Medical Intuition, together with Dr. Norman Shealy, that it is also at this point that you can begin to create and manifest. In other words, no matter how much visualization and affirmation you are doing, those of you who have been vicariously reading everything you can get your hands on about the Law of Attraction or The Secret, you will not be able to create, until you pull your power into the present. Forgiving those who have trespassed you is one of the biggest steps towards that goal.
Quotes about forgiving by Caroline Myss:
(excerpted from Cellular Responsibility: Getting Your Power Back).
Choosing Your Thoughts – Choosing Your Feelings
Now let's back track to our original subject. You reliving and remembering painful or traumatic experiences from the past to the point of physical manifestations such as tears of bursts of anger. Is that not the same as what I've just discussed in the previous paragraph, but in a negative version? You keep thinking about - visualizing - imagining - that event from the past to the point of making it a reality in your present life in the sense of how it affects you. In other words, it affects you as much as it might if it were actually happening now. So you have made it into a part of your current reality.
Is that what you want? Is that how you want to live your life?
Nothing stops you from hanging on to your anger or your pain, but only the decision to make new choices stops you from continuing on this desperate treadmill of pain. Making a new choice would be to say to yourself that for your sake, for your peace of mind, you will forgive whoever it was that treated you so badly, so that you can live a good life now. So that you no longer have to continue to relive the pain.
That is all it takes: a choice of dealing with the past differently. You decide, you choose, and your life changes. It is literally as simple as that. So when you get the old thoughts that lead you to the pain you literally say to them no, not today, thanks, I've got better stuff to do than to let you bother me again. Instead of you I'm going to think about what I want to accomplish, or I'm going to shift my energy or I’m going to focus on what is good in my life (even if it’s only the fresh, clean air where you live, or the lush vegetation, or the vibrant city about you, or the great libraries, or the football you can watch on TV). And by focusing on what is good in my life, I can begin to let go of the pain, I can begin to forgive, because from the place of feeling better, by re-focusing, I can understand that I don’t want to be in the place of pain, in the place where I hang on to all that hurt in the past. I know that the only reason it hurts now is because I am not letting go of it. So I choose to let go, to forgive, and to move on.
Do it for yourself,
and not only you will benefit, but all those whose lives you touch.
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In addition to her private practice – see above photo - (English, Spanish, and German), incorporating both integral coaching, and dream analysis in individual therapy (private sessions) and relationship coaching, as well as cutting-edge psycho-energetics (meridian energy therapies), Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Ph.D., CHT) has also been trained as a clinical hypnotherapist, and offers diverse workshops in the field of personal development and dream groups. Dr. Kortsch also offers phone consultations (domestic and international) to clients of more than twenty nationalities. A professional speaker, she is available to speak on a variety of related topics both publicly and privately for corporations, organizations, clubs, hospitals, and groups. For further information please contact her Marbella office by telephone +34 952 929 071, email, or see her website .
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This is what the March 2009 schedule looks like:
Ways To Listen:
1) LIVE on the web here
2) Past episodes here (these episodes only include shows since Januray 14th, 2009. For prior shows see the next point). These clips are for listening when the show is no longer live, for downloading, etc.)
2) Listen to over 150 archived audio files on my website (in the past it has always taken some time for me to get new shows up on my website due to logistical problems. Now, with the new program Re-Wiring the Soul, new clips will be up in a matter of minutes, for re-listening or downloading ... for adding to ITunes or your IPod)
3) You can also listen to past episodes on my blog ... scroll down on the right sidebar to just below the photo of myself wearing earphones
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If you want to call in during the show, call this US number (646) 727-1281. You can also - at the show's website - "click to talk" online, with no need to make a phone call.
Alternatively, you can chat with me and other listeners online during the show by signing in once you are at the site of that day's episode (see above as listed at the end of each show's description).
Information About This New Show
Many changes have taken place at the local studio where I had been broadcasting for the past five years from 2003 - 2008, and they finally closed their doors to the international section of their station.
Hence, I am continuing to broadcast via another medium and under the name Re-wiring the Soul.
After five years of broadcasting
a conventional radio show in Southern Spain about topics in the broad
(and frequently eclectic) fields of integral psychotherapy and positive
psychology, I wanted to venture further abroad. Thanks to my incredible
interlocutor at the station,
we managed to produce 150 audio clips from that show and they
are all available via my website
27 New Clips have recently gone up
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For greater ease in finding what interests you, archived shows are now separated into topics
Note that there are many more interviews on my new radio show Rewiring the Soul (see the archived episodes starting January 2009)
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154 shows are now up, and more are added frequently, as I air them on the website of my new radio show Rewiring the Soul and they are then available almost instantaneously either on the player at the Rewiring the Soul website, or the same player on the right side-bar of my blog. A similar player is also up on the website.
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Saturday, March 14, 2009 Workshop in English in Marbella
Using the Now Moment to Release Stress, Problems, and Anxiety
Who doesn't have worries, problems, stress, and anxiety? Have you ever wished you could be more like the people who seem to know how to handle it all? Or perhaps you never realized they also had problems, because they didn t appear to be strained or worried, until you understood that while they also have had difficulties, they seem to be able to cope better than most with the negative effects problems and worries create. One of the most competent/proficient ways of doing this yourself is by accessing the Now Moment. What happens there is quite spectacular. How to get there is the nucleus of this workshop, with both interactive and didactic methods. In other words, you will learn how to get to the Now Moment, how to use it in your benefit, and therefore, how to immediately improve the quality of your life. You will take with you knowledge to use every single day of your life in an ever-increasing spiral of freedom.
(Note: this workshop requires sign-up and full payment by Wednesday, March 11, 2009).
Click here for further information about this workshop
This month I have been requested to offer a second
workshop in February:
April 25 Past Life Regressions: Its Role in Resolving Parental Issues and
Relationship Difficulties (Marbella)
How many people have done a great deal of work on themselves and their relationships in therapy, in exercises of all types, in bodywork, meditation, and all kinds of other practices, only to find that although they may have gained a great deal of understanding, and their stress levels may have decreased substantially, that they have in fact, not solved the initial problem? In cases such as these, past life regression is frequently the method that finally brings them the answers they have been searching for with such fervor. Past life regression weaves together strands of eternal connection between you and others in your life that have had an important impact on you - whether that impact was positive or negative. One method for resolving the impact that was created is by re-living and understanding the bond or links that you share with the other person. This workshop which also includes a lengthy experiential group regression session, aims at explaining not only these fundamental timeless associations, but also how past life regression may be a tool in their comprehension.
May 16 Power, Possession, Obsession, and Control in Relationships: What Turns
Some Individuals Into Obsessive, Possession- and Power-Driven Control Seekers? Why do Other Individuals Allow This to Happen to Them? (Marbella)
Most people have met couples that have clearly demarcated power lines. One of the two holds the reins firmly in one hand, while the other allows him or herself to be controlled. The control is frequently of an emotional or sexual nature, rather than a financial or physical one. In the couple, one of the two needs to feel in possession of the other individual about whom he/she obsesses. Is this all to be blamed on feelings of insecurity and inferiority, or is there more than meets the eye at first glance? And what about the one at the receiving end of the equation? The one who is being manipulated, controlled, possessed? Are they allowing it because they are weak? Because they fear delineating boundaries of behaviour since it might cause them to be rejected or abandoned by the other individual? These and other topics form the body of insight of this workshop.
June 20 Happiness: Develop Your Capacity for Happiness. Raise your level of
happiness. See the quality of your life improve on a daily basis. (Marbella)
Why is happiness frequently so elusive? It seems to slip through our fingertips and we spend most of our lives chasing it like an errant butterfly, or telling ourselves that we "just weren't meant to be happy". Or maybe we don't deserve to be happy. Or maybe so many other things with which our minds torture us. So what might happen if we knew how to change all of that? If we could just "learn" what to do in order to ensure that our lives would be full of satisfaction and contentment and enjoyment. Wouldn't that be worth a bit of effort? Imagine being in charge of your state of happiness or content every day of your life. This workshop provides you with tools to achieve that. More importantly, this workshop shows you how easily you can make these monumental changes in your life, in order to begin to feel the difference immediately.
Time (on any of the dates): 10:30 – 14:30. Doors open at 10:00
Cost: 60 € in advance (bank transfer or deposit or cash), by the Wednesday prior to the workshop date
(midnight), or 90 € thereafter.
Phone: +34 952 929 071
These are the 12 Workshops in the Series
1. Life Focus, Intention, and Success: Understanding the Law of Attraction and Applying it to Your Immediate Life
Regression: Its Role in Healing Unresolved Parental
3. Using the Now Moment to Release Stress, Problems, and Anxiety
4. Jungian Dream Symbolism and Interpretation in Relationships: How your Anima and Animus appear in your dreams to show you the direction you are taking
5. Fatherless Women and Motherless Men: What happens to the adult woman who was raised without her father, and to the adult man whose early maternal relationship was not intact?
6. Power, Possession, Obsession, and Control in Relationships: What Turns Some Individuals Into Obsessive, Possession- and Power-Driven Control Seekers? Why do Other Individuals Allow This to Happen to Them?
7. Relationships: Begin to see your relationships (even those with problems) as Priceless Tools for Gaining Greater Self-Understanding, Growth, and Inner Freedom
8. Sexual and Love Triangles: How do they slip into our lives and why do individuals so frequently participate in them, tolerate them, and endure the pain they entail?
9. Emotional Unavailability in Relationships: What does it say about your partner? More importantly - What does it tell you about YOU?
10. Happiness: Develop your capacity for happiness. Raise your level of happiness. See the quality of your life improve on a daily basis.
11. Love & Relationship Challenges Seen Through the Lens of the Astrological Chart
12. Leadership Challenges: Knowing Yourself to Become an Effective Leader
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